Confide in a friend who can help you see both sides clearly, seek out the advice of a trusted religious leader, or join a supportive Facebook group. Co-parenting and technology go hand-in-hand. When raising kids in two households, technology keeps things easy and interesting. For example, you can set up a digital diary for your ex and you to share. Write notes about cute things your child does or funny things they say.
Add photos and thoughts from two different perspectives—you can even add voice messages or videos. The possibilities are endless. You can also take advantage of video-call apps such as Skype, Hangout, and FaceTime. These apps are useful in long-distance co-parenting situations. Call them during bedtime or during trips to school in the car. Finally, try installing a co-parenting app that allows you and your ex to coordinate calendars , expenses, schedule switches, and more.
You can also draft one yourself if you feel comfortable doing so. Then, you can keep this document between the two of you or file it with the court system.
A co-parenting agreement serves as a contract that addresses how both parents should behave toward each other and their children. This is in an effort to raise healthy, happy kids. At one point in time, you and your ex loved each other enough to have a child together. You are bound together forever through the child you made together. You can manage shared expenses, use a shared interface to send secure messages, log medical information, and more. If you need help navigating your co-parenting relationship with your ex, consider downloading 2houses and using it as a hub for all things co-parenting.
Log in Email or password is invalid. Now he has decided after 7 years he wants joint custody, he has stopped my maintenance, he sends me nasty texts and I have had 3 solicitors letters, 1 promising he will not flount lockdown rules again.
I have made sure the boys ring him, facetime him, I have even offered for him to come over and see them in the garden, but he didnt. He has always tried to control me and our boys, now i have stood up to him its like hes trying to punish me. I have a court letter to attend a hearing in August, I feel sick. I recently chose to take my ex husband to court a couple of months ago to prevent him threatening me and changing arrangements to suit him.
I left my ex as he was abusive and since the court order has been in place and everything has been agreed by a judge including him having to pay maintenance agreed by the cms i have felt loads better. He has the children more than i would like but at least the arguments and threats have stopped.
Going to court can be a good thing because it takes the decision out of his hands, he will not have everything his way and you may come out of the whole thing in a better position than you are now. I agree with picklepie. My ex took me to court a couple of years ago because he wanted to change the informal arrangement and i didnt.
Turns out this has been beneficial for me, because when he tries to mess me about i quote the order back at him…although he did get away with messing the kids about for 9 weeks of lockdown, so eventually i reported him to the court and hey presto he suddenly decided he could see the children.
Whatever the circumstance, ending a relationship comes with a sizeable amount of stressful contemplation and difficult emotions, usually for both parties.
While the actual breakup can be a very tricky navigation, not enough people consider what happens post-breakup, until it's too late.
Chances are, you're still going to have interactions with your ex, whether it's tying up loose ends or encountering them in new places. So whether you're reveling in your new single status or sadly binging romcoms over ice cream, here's a few things you need to know about how to handle your ex.
A sudden breakup can leave a lot of items caught in the middle especially if you were living together. Amongst those items, you're going to need to decide what is "yours", what is "theirs" and what is "ours". Items that are "yours" are those that you had prior to this relationship or that are used exclusively by you like your shoes - "theirs" items would have the same criteria for them. You can absolutely ask and expect to get "your" items back as long as you are prepared to return "theirs".
Those items should go to the person who is going to use it the most or best and has the capacity to do so. It would be a shame to take the BBQ out of spite if it's only going to sit in storage. As for gifts, Judge Judy always rules that gifts do not need to be returned and that stands here with one exception: family heirlooms that were given contingent on the relationship lasting like your grandmother's wedding ring should be given back.
A lot of people like to force-return a gift to make a statement. As much fun as it is to throw an expensive necklace back at your ex, maybe gift it to a friend or family member who would enjoy it - turning a negative into a positive is always the best option. As for the timing and the logistics of the returns, making this exchange within the first months would be ideal, so you've had some time to confirm the relationship is indeed over and hopefully emotions have cooled.
When you get into the months territory, it becomes a little harder to re-enter someone's life and makes you wonder if you really need those items that badly. If you deem it necessary, the exchange meetup can be a good opportunity for a closure chat, meeting at a neutral location like a coffee shop keeps it relatively friendly. Can I still interact with them on it?
Social media is like an entire second life with it's own set of rules. For some reason, blocking someone on social media is regarded as a near-blasphemous act, so, if you'd like to reduce what you see of your ex online, it's best to choose another option like unfollowing, muting or limiting what posts of yours they can see , unless they're that rare breed of ex that is completely block-worthy.
If you choose to keep them around online, it's best to limit your interactions liking, commenting, etc. If you are going to like a post, it's best to make it a universally congratulatory one like a graduation or a new job , where there is genuine pride involved. The worst online post-breakup behaviour is sub-posting: sharing content that is indirectly directed at your ex. Whether it's a complaint post about "some people", an affirmation of how good you're doing now or a nightclub pic if you enjoying your new status, it comes off as both passive-aggressive and childish, helping neither party mature out of this.
If it was a particularly volatile or embarrassing breakup that neither of you would wish to share with others, you can both agree on a joint statement to make although there's no guarantee that your ex will keep it. While there are a few friends you probably want to share the entire story with, the best answer is usually "it just didn't work out".
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