In work, taking a risk may be asking for a raise, suggesting a change to the status quo or starting a new career. Remember that everything is a learning experience, failures and successes alike.
What you take away from failure is up to you. In a situation where you experience failure, you can either see it as a challenge or use it as a learning experience to know how to better navigate your next endeavor. The choice is up to you. Related: How to Overcome Fear of Failure. Learning to focus on changing a situation rather than trying to change a person or group of people is a valuable lesson you can learn at work.
This is especially important when you find yourself in a management position. It may be a problem with scheduling or an issue with the way things are run. Instead of trying to change your employees to fit the status quo, take a look at the status quo itself and see how you can adjust it to promote success within the workplace. Sometimes the problem is not the people involved but rather the way the situation is handled. This lesson translates well to many aspects of life. Find jobs.
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It means having control over that fear versus letting that fear control you. Fear can be constructive. It forces you to be thoughtful around many aspects of your process and to be ready for obstacles that lie ahead. If your dreams don't scare you, it's possible that you're not dreaming big enough.
Don't let fears be the gatekeeper to your dreams. Be fearless like Hansen. Be vulnerable - "Life is so perfect! That's what they want you to think. That's not real life. No one's life is perfect. And that's okay!
In fact, people will relate to you more when you're vulnerable. We like to see that other people are flawed just like us. If you want to truly build meaningful relationships, you'll have to be vulnerable at some point. It's the only way to get close to someone. It shows that you trust them.
Never eat alone - "I love eating at a restaurant while reading a book by myself. I've probably seen fewer than five people in my entire life do that at a restaurant.
Even people who come in and sit at the bar alone end up making friends with other people. Look, you're going to eat that meal anyway. May as well do it while getting to know someone or with someone you care about! This gives you a chance to bond with someone. I did this at Box all the time and it helped me make a ton of friends over a period of two years. Want to know why? It's because during lunchtime, we usually stopped talking about work and finally started talking about our personal lives.
Some people call this small talk. I call this friendship. Share an Uber ride with someone - Sure, you could read an article on your phone during that Uber ride, but don't. Stop being a social hermit. Shared Uber rides are awesome because it gives you a change to genuinely connect with someone. I just did this on one of my last rides. Guess what happened? After some obligatory small talk, we laughed over a few good jokes and bonded over the city.
At the end of the cab ride, I found out she was the sister of one of my friends. Now I have a new friend. All because I decided to say hello during an Uber ride. Conquer a fear - I'm deathly afraid of heights. And that's why I signed up for a helicopter ride in San Francisco. You should have seen my face as the helicopter dove under the bridge. I have it on video. I don't think I'll ever show it publicly. It's just too embarrassing. My stomach hurt for the next two hours after the flight.
But I felt good. I conquered a fear. On to the next one. Commit to a real workout routine - Maybe it's a minute daily walk. Maybe it's P90X. Maybe it's circuit training. Maybe it's the Insanity workout. We all start off at different levels of workouts because we're all unique. The key is committing. Once you commit and do the workouts, you'll notice something: progress.
You'll feel physically stronger, your stamina will increase, and your mind will be sharper. Most importantly, you'll realize that you can accomplish goals that you set out for yourself. That's a huge mental victory that can change your life. Need motivation? Here are my top 10 things that successful people do to motivate themselves.
Learn to share your story - Everyone has a unique story. One of my friends almost died from kidney failure when he was in his early twenties. He was on dialysis for many months while waiting for a kidney transplant. The only problem: they couldn't find a kidney donor for his blood type. Then one day, his mother went to the gym.
Distraught over the situation, she began to cry while on the treadmill. Another gym member walked up to her and asked her what was wrong. She told her to leave her alone. That same person came back and asked again. She finally told her that her son was dying and that he need a kidney transplant but no one matched his blood type. The woman asked what his blood type was. She told her. It turns out they matched.
The woman said she would donate her kidney. Today, my friend is alive because a random stranger decided to donate her kidney to save him. His story inspires me every single day. Learn to tell your story. You never know whose life you could change. Make a trip to the snowy mountains - Whether it's snowboarding, skiing, or just camping out at a log cabin in the snowy mountains, this is one of the best ways to disconnect from the digital world and to find time for yourself.
I love sitting at the top of the mountain. It's completely quiet. It's peaceful. It's refreshing. Sometimes I just sit there for a while thinking about life. In a world where almost everything is on demand and moves incredibly fast, it's good to pause for a moment. To reflect. Host a dinner party - One of the best way to spend time with friends and to make new ones is to host a dinner party. People often love this because they feel special that you invited them to a small dinner.
It also gives them a chance to meet new friends, too. I usually invite 6 people. That's a good sized crowd before it gets too loud and hard to talk to everyone. Play a team sport - When I was growing up I played basketball a lot. I learned a lot from it. It taught me how to communicate with others effectively. For example, I'd yell out, "Screen left" if the competition's teammate was about to do that.
It taught me how much people can achieve when they work together. It taught me to never give up. No matter how bad the score may have been, we always tried to put in maximum effort.
Go to a live sporting event - Preferably one that has a packed stadium. Football, soccer, basketball, tennis, or whatever suits your fancy. You'll feel a jolt of excitement and energy from the crowd of tens of thousands of people cheering with you. It's unlike anything I've experienced. Especially when there's a game winner. Learn to cook one dish really well - It doesn't matter what the dish is. Just learn to cook at least one dish really well.
Need help? YouTube it. For me, it's an omelet. I've spent years working on how to cook a nice omelet, so that it's not burned or overcooked. The trick is in using butter. Learning to cook one dish will give you a sense of accomplishment and appreciation for food as well.
Because then you'll realize how hard it is to make a great meal. Added bonus: you could make your spouse really happy with an awesome meal. Try new food - Speaking of food, try something that's completely foreign and exotic to you. Just make sure it's safe to eat. For me, it was chicken feet. Yes, they serve that at dim sum restaurants.
When I first saw it, I thought, "I'm eating that? And it was so good. I order it almost every time I'm at that restaurant now. When you do this, what you're really doing is opening yourself up to new experiences. You're testing your assumptions. Don't limit yourself to a world view that's constrained. There's so much out there to explore and experience. It's what life is about.
Expand your horizons. Dance like no one's watching - Get jiggy with it. Do the Nae-Nae. Or heck, go for the Dirty Dancing move. Just make sure your partner's been doing some shoulder workouts. Go on a biking trip - This is such a great way to explore a new place. Sure, you could take an Uber or a cab, but when you're on a bike you can slow down and really take in the sights of a new city. Plus, you get a workout in. Have a deep conversation without looking at your phone - Have you ever had a conversation while looking at your phone at the same time?
I have. It usually goes like this: Someone says something. I look up from the phone and ask, "Sorry, can you repeat that? Really look at the person. Listen to them. I just did this with my dad recently and it was one of the best conversations we've ever had. Refrain from using your phone, computer, or TV for an entire weekend - Want to take it a step further? Refrain from using any digital product for an entire weekend.
One of my close friends does this by hiking and camping in the wilderness. He loves it because he feels so at ease. We live in a world of information overload. Taking a break from it once in a while is a good thing. Fall deeply in love - To quote Moulin Rouge my favorite movie of all time , "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. It happened in a way I never expected. It seems like it happens for most people this way. I had snuck into a Twitter party in Barcelona.
A beautiful woman walked by and smiled. I was smitten. I said hello. Ever since that moment, she's changed my life. One of the most fulfilling things in life you can ever experience is to fall deeply in love.
Take the leap. You'll be glad you did. Learn a different language - You can use a free amazing language learning app like Duolingo. It's how I'm learning Spanish now. Now my trips to Barcelona are twice as entertaining! Mentor someone - You've got some great life experiences. Whether it's love, friendships, career, entrepreneurship, traveling, or any other subject, you've learned something profound.
Why keep it all to yourself? Pay it forward. Share those experiences with others. Be a mentor. Find your own mentor - Surround yourself with the type of person you want to become.
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